As mentioned in the last post, I didn’t really make any new year’s resolutions this year. But I do kind of have things in my head that I want to strive for this year, as well as ways I’d like to see things going or changing.
They may not be specific goals (or resolutions), but more like just things I’d like to do differently, mostly to help me attain more balance, and ultimately happiness in my life.
Like I described in my last post, one of those things is health and fitness, and I’m working on that and actually putting a lot of focus on it. Another thing is relationships. There are some past relationships I’ve had with people that kind of turned bad, and I’ve had a hard time letting go of them. One reason is I probably care too much what people think of me, so I have a hard time letting go when I think someone has bad feelings towards me. But I’ve realized that sometimes that’s just going to happen. I’m a forgiving person, and I’m willing to talk out just about any situation. But not everyone is that way. And not everyone is as attached to friendships as I am. So I’ve made a decision about these kinds of past relationships, and acted on it. Some of them, there’s been a seeming opportunity to at least reinstate a relationship, without having any kind of attachment to what it needs to look like in the future. Others – well, there’s not really much I can even do on my end to reinstate them, it’s just in the hands of those people to reach out to me. So I’ve reached out to those I could. And in at least one case, that person was receptive, and I appreciate that. In other cases, they weren’t, so I feel like it’s time to let go of those. I don’t hate them, they’ve just made the decision to not have me in their life and I’m not going to hold on to or think about them any longer. And that’s ok. It was their choice, and honestly, it was probably more about them and how they see the world than me at all. But I’m letting go of it. End of story. And I think my life and peace of mind will be better for it.
I’ve also run into some problems on social media lately. It’s nothing against anyone, it’s just a feeling like people seem to be very negative and like to argue lately. Maybe it has more to do with me, and I’m not sure what that says about me, but either way – it’s not something I want or need in my life right now. I’m more focused on working on the balance I want at the moment. So I’ve deactivated my Facebook account, and I’m stepping away from most social media for the moment. It’s just become more and more clear that I need to do that for myself right now. This doesn’t mean I don’t want to have relationships with people, it just means that honestly, I don’t feel like everyone needs to see what I’m doing all the time. I do welcome contact from people. If you have my number, text or call me (if I don’t answer, leave a message – I leave my phone on vibrate 24/7). If you don’t, feel free to email me at sheryl AT girlvsplanet DOT com. Or just comment on here. I’ll see it.
I just felt the need to explain where I’m at right now. I’ll still blog as I see fit. And I’ll be back on social media eventually. It’s just become something more negative than positive at this point in time, so I want to focus on the more positive things.
Thanks for understanding!
It is sad that there even needs to be a disclaimer – that deactivating Facebook doesn’t mean you don’t want relationships with people. Obviously it’s a tool that makes it easier to keep in touch, but it shouldn’t become the only way. I think it would do us (general “us”) better to branch out and put some effort into other methods so it doesn’t become “no Facebook = no relationship.”
Ironically, the book I’m reading right now, while it’s fiction, goes right along with all of this. You should check out The Circle, by Dave Eggers. I think you might like it, gRegor. I might end up writing a review of it here when I’m done with it.